tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19068319795024373712024-03-05T18:19:34.313-08:00The Righteous GayA blog for the gay youth by a gay youth.The Righteous Gayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18214030645990282669noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906831979502437371.post-37895719696614357412013-01-14T10:53:00.000-08:002013-01-14T10:53:50.420-08:002013Every year brings new dimensions that enable us to see things within a kinder light, and with more perceptiveness. New Years are a gateway to what the future holds and to greater understanding as the story unfolds. With 2013 ahead- I've decided to take a hiatus from The Righteous Gay and my blogging in hopes that I may reconnect on a greater level with my story as it unfolds.<br />
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Looking back on 2012, I am left smiling in awe. Having come out on the 1st day of 2012, the entire year was a journey for myself and I was capable of sharing some of these experiences with you and all the viewers. When I came out, I never expected to start blogging and in turn help so many people. Blogging has been such a gratifying and self-therapeutic experience, and I have come to learn a lot about the gay community as well as about myself. I've come to find that even though the community has its many down-sides, it also has its many up-sides and that it's inevitably what you make of it. (A change in your perspective could be the difference between an ending and a new beginning.)<br />
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What I've learned about myself is that I can make a difference, as can you. You and I were both born into this world, and some day we will both leave it. How we fill our time here on earth may differ, but neither of us is more worthy of living than the other. The Righteous Gay became my platform/ my persona that ultimately helped me become more comfortable with my sexuality and allowed me to explore my dreams and hopes for the future, so it is with a heavy heart that I type this post, for it will be last for some time. But before I do take this break- I wanted to leave you all with this final message: </div>
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Being gay is not the end of the world. It's not. You don't have to fit a stereotype if it's untrue to your being but you needn't feel ashamed if you do. Your sexuality, just as your color, creed and age doesn't make you a lesser human and it should never define you. (All these things will never detract from who you are as a person unless you let them.) Remember to never use your sexuality as an excuse or as a crutch and to never become a victim of others' misconceptions. Your sexuality should be a form of empowerment. But most importantly, remember it's not that serious. So you like someone of the same sex? So does every 1 in 10 people. </blockquote>
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It may not seem thought provoking or inspirational- but my message is simple. It's clear. My greatest hope is that I may return to blogging at a later stage with a greater understanding, but before I get there- I must experience more. I wish you all the best as your story unfolds and thank you all for your kind words, support and love.<br />
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The Righteous Gayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18214030645990282669noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906831979502437371.post-62584138827726668722012-12-03T08:40:00.001-08:002012-12-03T13:38:42.135-08:00Homosexuality Unnatural?So I've decided to address the "Homosexuality Is Unnatural" fallacy, yes- fallacy, in today's post. To support my argument, I am going to share with you a few stories and studies that help prove that homosexuality is in fact natural, and that <b><span style="color: #38761d;">no one should ever feel ashamed or unnatural for being true to their own being</span></b>.<br />
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Usually, opponents would argue that homosexuality cannot be natural because only humans display homosexual "tendencies" and because homosexual couples cannot bear children. In fact, many homosexual people themselves find it even more difficult to accept their sexuality because they are influenced by this societal misconception- so today I want to set the record straight: <b><span style="color: #38761d;">HOMOSEXUALITY IS NATURAL</span></b>.</div>
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<b>Animals: </b>It has been noted that close to <a href="http://www.news-medical.net/news/2006/10/23/20718.aspx">1500 species of animals display homosexual behavior</a>. This behavior has been recorded in all types of animals, ranging from dolphins to worms. Within certain species this behavior can be temporary, whilst others practice same-sex behavior throughout their whole lives, such as dwarf chimpanzee. Male lions often partake in homosexual sex to strengthen the bond within their pride. Within a colony of Black-Headed Gulls, an estimated one-tenth of all pairs are lesbian. <a href="http://news.nationalgeographic.com/news/2004/07/0722_040722_gayanimal.html">A study of the Bonobo</a>, an African ape, suggests that 75% of sex is non-reproductive (between two same sexed apes). And the list goes on; Giraffes, Elephants, Spotted hyenas, Bottlenose dolphins, Black swans, Flamingos, American Bison, Dragonflies and many more!<br />
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In some species, specifically within the bird kingdom, pairing between two males or females have been well documented. Homosexual behavior in penguins have been observed as early as 1911, the findings, which were considered too shocking for release at the time, were only released a century later and only published recently in June 2012. In 2004 the New York Times reported a story of two Chinstrap Penguins, <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Roy_and_Silo">Roy and Silo,</a> in New York's Central Park Zoo that hatched and raised a chick named Tango. Staff noted that the pair performed mating rituals as far back as in 1998, and after an attempt to hatch a rock in 1999, it was decided that they would allow Roy and Silo the opportunity to hatch an unsuccessfully looked after egg from another pair. In 1998 two male Griffon Vultures, named Dashik and Yehuda, built a nest together and took turns incubating an artificial egg, after 45 days, the zoo replaced the egg with a baby vulture which the two father vultures raised successfully in the Jerusalem Biblical Zoo in Israel. <br />
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Whilst it's evident that gay couples, whether human or not, are perfectly capable of raising young, many still claim that our inability to produce offspring makes us unnatural. However there are many heterosexual couples with similar circumstances. <b>Infertility</b>. Infertility, also known as sterility, is the state of being unable to produce offspring (in woman it is the inability to conceive, and men the inability to impregnate). According to the <a href="http://humrep.oxfordjournals.org/content/22/6/1506.full">Oxford Journals</a>, 72.4 million woman are infertile. This means that there are thousands of heterosexual couples that are unable to have children due to infertility issues. This would then classify these heterosexual couples as unnatural too- which would then dismiss the theory of ONLY homosexual's being unnatural. Despite the couples who are infertile- there are also many heterosexual couples who never have children -by choice. Whether it be a conscious decision or an impairment- it is evident that not bearing children cannot be a valid indicator of whether something is natural or not. Regardless whether you are infertile, straight or gay- there are various methods that allow people the opportunity to raise children anyways, these methods include adoption and surrogacy.<br />
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Having researched all the above information it became apparent to me that we as humans take sexuality far too serious. We are so quick to divide ourselves, and categorize one another- that we tend to look beyond the basics. Homosexuality is natural, just as bisexuality and heterosexuality is. Within these many animal species- there is no taxonomy. They are not excluded from the herd or picked on by other animals when they display homosexual behavior- and one of the reasons for this is because within their species homosexual behavior is not seen as a weakness, nor as an unfavorable trait/characteristic... It's just natural. And that's an important derivation that we ALL can make just by looking at nature, that <u><b><span style="color: #38761d;">being true to oneself is NEVER unnatural</span></b></u>!<br />
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The Righteous Gayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18214030645990282669noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906831979502437371.post-58849683433049704652012-11-07T06:38:00.003-08:002012-11-07T06:44:04.792-08:00Support Systems: Our CornerstoneI once read that <b><span style="background-color: #a64d79; color: white;">we are all the product of the love we receive</span></b>. Such a profound statement.<br />
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Having come out on the 1st of January, I have constantly found myself comparing this year to the last, and without a doubt this has been the happiest I've ever been in my life. But what has changed? Apart from having the people in my life know that I am gay, my year has been relatively similar to the last. Earlier this year I found myself sifting through friends (as horrible as it may sound) deciding which I felt belonged, and I wanted, in my life. The process was long overdue. Having gone through high school I became so inclined to labeling acquaintances as friends, and mistook them as friendships which was ultimately more detrimental for myself. Luckily, I had come to realize this sooner than later, and slowly I have begun to decipher which friends are truly my FRIENDS. </div>
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Through out this year I have been fortunate enough to meet gays from all walks of life. I have heard them tell their stories and I have listened, processed and begun to understand what makes the gay community so unique; our support systems. Just as each and everyone one of us is unique, so is our form of support. I like to refer to our support systems as our Cornerstone. For those of you that do not know; a Cornerstone is an important feature/quality on which a particular thing depends or is based. In this instance, you are the "particular thing" and your support system are those "important feature's" on which you depend.<br />
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I've come to realize that not everyone has been as fortunate as I, and nor will many people be as lucky. My family responded to my sexuality as any family SHOULD- with love and support, but not everyone's story is as sweet. I cannot sugar coat a story of a gay man loosing the love and support of his family- because there is nothing sweet about it- but I can tell you that there are other people who've made it against far greater odds. This is what brings me to today's post.<br />
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I've constantly spoke of how vital it is to remain positive throughout your darkest moments because there is a light at the end of the tunnel, there is a future for you. Sometimes all we need is someone to remind us about that light, someone to comfort us- someone to be our Cornerstone. That someone can be anyone. It can be a nurturing mother, a caring friend, an insightful teacher or even a helpful stranger. We build our own support systems to cater to our loads. We essentially have the ability to create a system strong enough to withstand the greatest loads, all we have to do is look in the right places. Many find support in their family and friends, but some are forced to find other means of support when their initial cornerstones no longer deem fit.<br />
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That's where the gay community comes in. Many are quick to dismiss the acceptance of the gay community, but seldom are we exposed to the supportive side that the gay community does have to offer. As body conscious and shallow as some gay men may be, there is one thing that unites the whole community and that is the struggle (whether internal or external) that we all endure. Through my interaction with other gays I have been welcomed with open arms, and I have been supported. I have come to realize that we as a community are the best suited to play one another's support because we have all endured similar conflicts. We are better adapted to be one another's Cornerstone. It is this exact reason that I suggest everyone reading this post reaches out as opposed to waits for help. Sometimes the strongest form of support is not one that shifts the load, but shares it.<br />
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Your support system are the people who help you realize that you're perfect the way you are, and you deserve to be loved. Not everyone is fortunate to still have their family on their side, but one thing I can promise is that you will find just as much love and support by the friends you make on your journey. <b>Remember:</b> "<b>The difference between a helping hand and an outstretched palm is a twist of the wrist.</b>"- <b>Laurence Leamer</b>. <br />
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If any of you want help/advice or even someone to talk to- email me: gregodemi@gmail.com<br />
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<span style="color: #674ea7;">In light of tomorrow being Spirit Day- I thought I'd take the opportunity to create a post for all the youth out there. The title of this post may seem misleading but should you keep reading it will all be put into perspective for you. </span><br />
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<span style="color: #674ea7;">Firstly, what is </span><b><span style="color: #351c75;"><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spirit_Day">Spirit Day</a> </span></b><span style="color: #674ea7;">? Spirit Day is day when people wear purple in support of LGBT youth who are victims of bullying, the day takes place annually on October 19th. Started in 2010 by a Canadian student- Brittany McMillan, Spirit Day has since become known internationally thanks to social networking sites such as Facebook and Twitter. The name of this day originates from the purple stripe of the Rainbow Flag (also known as the Gay Flag) which is said to represent "spirit" according to the creator of the flag- Gilbert Baker.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #674ea7;">On a day such as Spirit Day- it is likely that one would share their stories of how they overcame bullying, and how it has made them a stronger person. Unfortunately, I am incapable of doing so. The reason I say "unfortunately" is because I was on the opposite end of the spectrum. Having attended an all boys school- I learned to reassert my "straightness" by verbally degrading homosexuals and what it meant to be gay. I would be lying if I told you that no one was offended or harmed by my immaturity and insensitivity, and for this- I carry a great amount of shame and regret. My actions were a result of my internalized fear of being who I am and although this does not justify my actions, it is what has led me to this weeks message:</span><br />
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<span style="color: #674ea7;">Should you find yourself the victim of bullying now or anytime in the future I want you to remember one thing: </span><b><span style="color: #351c75;">You're not alone</span></b><span style="color: #674ea7;">. Despite their being millions of other victims who now stand taller and prouder than ever, there are also people (such as myself) that have come to realize that we were wrong- and that most of our actions were consequence of some internal obstacles we had yet to overcome (whether it was issues at home or within ourselves). More importantly- I want you to know that some of the world's most influential figures withstood hate and bullying too, and they're no different from you. </span><br />
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<span style="color: #674ea7;">On Spirit Day I will be wearing a purple ribbon in support of all the victims out there and hopefully I will be creating awareness. My greatest hope is that I get to bump into one of MY victims</span><span style="color: #351c75;">,</span><span style="color: #674ea7;"> someone who had endured MY hate, and for me to be allowed the opportunity to ask for forgiveness and show </span><span style="color: #351c75;"><b>MY SUPPORT</b></span><span style="color: #674ea7;">. And I am not alone, apart from the numerous celebrities that will be wearing purple, there are also various organizations such as <a href="http://www.standupfoundation.com/">The Ben Cohen StandUp Foundation</a> , <a href="http://youcanplayproject.org/">You Can Play Project</a> , <a href="http://www.itgetsbetter.org/">It Gets Better</a> , <a href="http://whatdoyouchoose.org/">"I Choose" Anti-Bullying Campaign</a> and <a href="http://bornthiswayfoundation.org/">The Born This Way Foundation</a> that will be out in full force combating bullying. Why don't you join us and show your support?!</span><br />
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<span style="color: #674ea7;">For the first time ever, I will not be putting a Final Thought to my post, the reason being because I have yet to make my mind up. I will however be leaving a comment at a later stage- telling you how my day went and what the day meant to me. I wish you all a bully-free, happy Spirit Day and leave you with this video by Todrick Hall called It Gets Better. Check it out:</span><br />
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<br />The Righteous Gayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18214030645990282669noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906831979502437371.post-3928341358841723252012-10-10T14:59:00.000-07:002012-10-10T14:59:57.978-07:00National Coming Out Day 2012<div style="text-align: center;">
<b><span style="font-size: large;">Hey everyone! Happy <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/National_Coming_Out_Day">National Coming Out Day</a>!</span></b></div>
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Today I thought I'd create a short post just to reiterate the importance of days such as National Coming Out Day- which is celebrated on the 11th of October. I have shared <a href="http://therighteousgay.blogspot.com/2012/05/my-coming-out-story.html">My Coming Out Story</a>, and I have before mentioned sites such as <a href="http://www.rucomingout.com/">RucomingOut</a> where you can read others' stories. There is so much one can learn from others experiences and it allows for greater understanding and also displays various approaches from which you might learn a thing or two...<br />
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On a day like this, one is reminded of the stature of the LGBT community. There are millions of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender citizens around this world that will be celebrating their COMING OUT and being who they are. Essentially National Coming Out Day can be seen as a day to celebrate your sexuality and being true to yourself. National Coming Out Day(NCOD) was founded in 1988 by a psychologist Robert Eichberg in New Mexico. The date was chosen as it was the anniversary of the <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Second_National_March_on_Washington_for_Lesbian_and_Gay_Rights">1987 National March on Washington for Lesbian and Gay Rights</a>. After two years, in 1990, the day was already being celebrated in all 50 states of America and several other countries. Fast forward 24 years and it's a world wide event! <br />
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I recall this day last year: It was around this time that I had decided I wanted to come out, and I was just itching to shout out, "I'm GAY!". Fortunately, it never turned out that way and I took a more realistic approach to coming out, doing so only 3 months later. I feel it is important to remind you that you needn't come out on a day such as today if you feel uncomfortable with it. If today is not the day- then don't come out, rather just be thankful you are on this journey. However, being closeted should not inhibit you from celebrating on day such as today... Today is a celebration for surviving the name calling, the malicious remarks and all the hate you've endured. If you made it to today- you will make it through Coming Out.<br />
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Although today is a day of celebration, one should be reminded of the impact Coming Out has had on so many in the past. I ask that amidst the celebrations, you take a moment and remember all those who aren't as fortunate to be around celebrating a day such as today because of their circumstances. Also, take this opportunity to congratulate those who are open, as well as to educate others about NCOD.<br />
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Today should be seen as a LGBT holiday! Whether open or closeted, today is a celebration of your sexuality and being true to yourself. Today marks the day when you look back and are reminded that it took a fighter to get where you stand today, and that same fighter will make it through tomorrow and the days, months and years that follow... (I have two videos to share: Diana Ross' <i>I'm Coming Out </i>and a video made for NCOD 2012) <b><span style="color: #cc0000;">HAVE</span><span style="color: #e69138;"> A </span><span style="color: #f1c232;">GREAT</span><span style="color: #38761d;"> NATIONAL</span> <span style="color: #0b5394;">COMING </span><span style="color: #351c75;">OUT</span> <span style="color: magenta;">DAY!!</span></b><br />
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<br />The Righteous Gayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18214030645990282669noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906831979502437371.post-53426146087143326042012-09-30T15:19:00.000-07:002012-10-04T03:49:57.170-07:005 Steps To Coming OutNow I know this post is probably going to turn heads simply because everyone's experiences are not exactly one in the same. Therefore I will put this disclaimer above:<br />
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I have always maintained that coming out is an extremely personal experience, and no one should be forced to do so prior to the time they feel necessary. The issue should be addressed whenever YOU feel it need be. Having mentioned all the above, I have thought up 5 steps to help guide all those still closeted. It's important to bare in mind that these steps could take up anything from one month to 5 years...Ultimately you set the pace- and it should be one you're comfortable with.<br />
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<b><u><span style="color: red;">STEP 1: SELF ACCEPTANCE</span></u></b><br />
I've said it before in <a href="http://therighteousgay.blogspot.com/2012/05/my-coming-out-story.html" target="_blank">My Coming Out Story</a> : <b><span style="color: red;">accepting yourself for who you are is pivotal</span></b>. One needs to feel comfortable within their own skin before they can approach a situation like this. I believe what one should do is strip down what it means to be gay, layer by layer. <b><span style="color: red;">Redefine the term "homosexual"</span></b>. Everyone is a victim to societal pressure- which has ultimately resulted in us having <a href="http://therighteousgay.blogspot.com/2012/06/labels-are-not-my-name.html" target="_blank">a preconceived idea of what it means to be homosexual</a>. Throw that image away and reconstruct one from research and personal experience. To do so one can visit sites/blogs that display different sides of homosexuals that one is not exposed to on a regular basis. View the dynamics of a gay family on <a href="http://gayfamilyvalues.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">Gay Family Values</a> or watch how openly gay athletes embrace their sexuality on the <a href="http://www.fearlessproject.org/#mi=1&pt=0&pi=13&s=0&p=-1&a=0&at=0" target="_blank">FEARLESS Project</a>. Alternatively, one could speak to openly gay people about their experiences, <a href="http://therighteousgay.blogspot.com/2012/07/gays-ontop.html" target="_blank">exposure to successful homosexuals</a> will allow you to realize your potential is never affected by your sexuality. Essentially you should become more comfortable with the term 'homosexual' and be able to associate/identify with it, without feeling ashamed or saddened.<br />
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<b><u><span style="color: #e69138;">STEP 2: RESEARCH/EDUCATE YOURSELF</span></u></b><br />
This step goes hand in hand with the first. As you begin to come to terms with your sexuality it is vital you educate yourself for your own benefit as well as others'. This step is of importance because once you have come out, friends and family will turn to you with questions regarding this new information. Prepare yourself in advance by learning about homosexuality and it's relevance in your community. <i>What does one educate themselves about? </i>About the fundamental issues that relate to being gay, these include:<br />
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<li> <b><span style="color: #e69138;">Health Issues</span></b>. (Sexually Transmitted Diseases are, unfortunately, synonymous with the gay community- learn about them and prevention techniques/methods as well as possible post exposure treatments- such as <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Post-exposure_prophylaxis">P.E.P</a>'s. There are also many gay sport clubs within certain communities, as well as sites like <a href="http://www.outsports.com/">Outsports</a> and chat sites such as <a href="http://www.realjock.com/">RealJock</a>- which cater to gay men who show interests in sports and gym). </li>
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<li> <b><span style="color: #e69138;">Benefits</span></b>. (Contradictory to popular belief there are benefits to being openly gay. These vary from country to country. Competitions such as Mr Gay World are open to only gay contestants, also certain colleges/foundations offer bursaries and scholarships to openly gay students such as <a href="http://orangecountyimperialcourt.org/Scholarship.htm">The Harvey Milk Scholarship</a>. Apart from this, there are many businesses owned by gays that offer special prices to gay clients as well as support fellow gay owned/ gay-friendly businesses- it's a form of self sustainability) </li>
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<li><b><span style="color: #e69138;">Other Aspects</span>. </b>Any other personal aspects that could be affected should also be researched. Perhaps it may relate to security or lifestyle changes, or even regarding relationships and sex life- which ever it may be, make sure it's not left out!</li>
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<b><u><span style="color: #38761d;">STEP 3: ASK QUESTIONS</span></u></b><br />
I've placed this step alone to highlight the importance of it. <b><span style="color: #6aa84f;">Ask QUESTIONS!!</span></b> It's always great to speak to people who have had first hand experience, and to ask any possible questions you might have. Fortunately there are search engines which allow you to ask questions in the safety of your own home. <a href="http://answers.yahoo.com/">Yahoo! Answers</a> is a forum that allows people to post questions anonymously which can then be answered by random yet relevant people. (There are many other similar forums too). Alternatively, one could also email someone, such as myself or other bloggers/social figures, with their questions- these people needn't even be in the same country! By asking questions one can ensure more comfort and enlightenment in coming out, ultimately this an opportunity to reassure yourself about the future and what to expect.<br />
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<b><u><span style="color: #3d85c6;">STEP 4: PREPARATIONS</span></u></b><br />
Preparing to come out is a step neglected by many. When considering when to come out, one should consider as many aspects as possible, some of these aspects include:<br />
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<li><b><span style="color: #3d85c6;">Where You Will Come Out.</span> </b>Another aspect that you can play to your advantage is where you choose to tell your family/friends. By deciding on a place prior to the event, you are ultimately contemplating a place for everyone to digest the information you will be telling them. It's probably best to tell people in a more intimate environment if it's the first time. Remember: Social/Busy environments make it difficult for people to genuinely react, it also makes a situation more stressful, however for some these situations might be significantly better. You decide which is best because you know them best. </li>
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<li><b><span style="color: #3d85c6;">How You Will Come Out.</span> </b>Probably the most contemplated aspect of Coming Out is How it'll be done. Practice what you will say before hand, to best prepare yourself. Remember: You want to come across sincere yet certain. Ultimately, you want to express that this is not a decision, but simply you pursuing a more authentic life, a life of fulfillment. You also want to reassure your family/friends that your intentions are not to break away, but to allow them a greater understanding of yourself. NOTE: You should expect the worst reactions, but hope for the best. This is a personal issue, do not deviate from the point: You are gay, and you want them to know this because they are of importance to you. It's advisable to let them know that you are here for any possible questions that may arise and that you want to help rather than rebel. Keep it as serious as possible and reassert your sureness, NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR BEING GAY! </li>
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<li><b><span style="color: #3d85c6;">The Small Details.</span> </b>You want to be as prepared as possible for this day so don't overlook the small things. This is usually an emotional situation, one in-which you want to feel as comfortable as possible, so slip on your most comfortable clothes and favorite pair of shoes. Perhaps you could cook a meal, to reassure your commitment to the family. People are usually more susceptible when you've taken them into consideration, so you're more likely to have them respond positively if you've shown effort. Remember: The atmosphere plays on people's emotions too- make the atmosphere as comfortable as possible for both yourself and the recipients. </li>
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<li><b><span style="color: #3d85c6;">THE BACKUP PLAN.</span> </b>Now you've prepared for the worst. In the case that your family/friends do not respond well- you want a plan to retire to. This could be a place to stay should your parents want you out the house or it could be a fellow LGBT member who has agreed to help you out. Remember: You have to take into consideration what you parents reaction could be, ESPECIALLY if you're solely dependent on them financially. Your backup plan doesn't necessarily have to be permanent, it just has to be reliable. </li>
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<span style="color: #134f5c;"><b>***<u>COMING OUT WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND/GIRLFRIEND PRESENT:</u>***</b></span><br />
As appealing as it may sound, in many instances it backfires. People may suggest that your boyfriend/girlfriend has influenced you into being gay (as pathetic and impossible as that sounds), they also may shift the blame/hate/anger onto him/her. Therefore, I would suggest you rather tell them without having your boyfriend/girlfriend present, this doesn't mean they cannot be around to console, comfort and reassure you at a later stage.</blockquote>
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The last step of the process, and usually the toughest. Basically you have prepared to the fullest for this, provided you've followed the above steps and that you are certain this is the right time. Remember: There is only so much you can prepare for the unexpected. Coming Out is a turn out of events, a turn out that cannot be precisely predicted. (Hence why one would prepare for the worst). When those words are uttered, the world doesn't change, life doesn't become eccentric and other gay people don't come running in to kiss you- this is simply because sexuality does not define you, nor does it change the world. You may feel relieved or angry, just bare in mind that the emotions are temporary, and as time passes you will become happier with your decision. This is a personal experience that you are sharing with your loved ones, that does not mean they should prevent you from living your life. NOTE: That does not mean rush into things- that will only result in regret. Take things at your own pace, and remember<span style="color: #674ea7;"> <b>IT GETS BETTER!!</b></span><br />
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<li><b><span style="color: #674ea7;">NEVER OUT SOMEONE ELSE.</span> </b>Regardless whether you've had the opportunity to come to terms or not, you should never "out" someone else without their consent. Coming Out should be kept personal, so there's no need to mention other closeted gay people. </li>
<li><b><span style="color: #3d85c6;">Do not belittle other gays</span></b>, such as stereotypes, when you've come out. By saying you're not like other gays you are simply distracting/deviating from the issue at hand, and it's counterproductive if it's acceptance you seek. Besides, you may even befriend those exact stereotypes later in life (gay men can be so funny!). <u>So be accepting</u>!</li>
<li><span style="color: #6aa84f;"><b>Don't give GAY a negative connotation!</b> </span>When you've just come out you should rather expose your family/friends to the positive aspects as opposed to the negative aspects. You don't want them to associate GAY with being shameful. I'm not implying you should exclude them from the reality of being homosexual- I'm implying you should rather tell them which doors have opened rather than which have closed (because few have closed and more have opened). </li>
<li><b><span style="color: #f1c232;">Don't expect everyone to accept it from the get-go.</span></b> It will take time for people to come to terms with this. It has taken time for you to accept this- so allow them time and space to do the same. Also <b><span style="color: #e69138;">DO NOT give up hope</span></b>, the most homophobic of people have changed in history. </li>
<li>As mentioned above, <b><span style="color: #cc0000;">NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR BEING GAY</span></b>. This is not a decision, nor is it something to be ashamed or apologetic for, be proud of it!</li>
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Read about others coming out stories, educate yourself and open yourself up to a more accepting society. Remember, if it's acceptance you seek, you have to learn to accept first. Being gay is a small game changer, your on a different team but the fields are the same, and so are the rules. Just remember- this is about you, and you set the pace. Nothing should prevent you from living your life genuinely. Being gay doesn't define who you are- but it definitely makes you a stronger person. Now go out there and live your life the way your heart always intended to!<br />
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<b>IF YOU WANT TO READ ABOUT MY COMING OUT STORY AND OTHER EXCITING COMING OUT STORIES CHECK OUT <a href="http://www.rucomingout.com/gregory.html">RUCOMINGOUT.COM</a> </b><br />
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<br />The Righteous Gayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18214030645990282669noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906831979502437371.post-55578837430471348002012-09-25T07:54:00.002-07:002012-09-25T07:54:25.386-07:00That's so GAY!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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We've all heard it before. In all honesty, I am guilty of having used the phrase myself, and for this I am ashamed. Having attended an all boy school- colloquial phrases such as, "That's so gay", became a way of reasserting your "straightness". Or so I thought. Regardless whether the phrase is spoken in jest or with malicious intent, the phrase <b>NEEDS TO STOP BEING SAID</b>! Admittedly, this is not easy to achieve, so in response I have found a way to combat the affects one might feel when a phrase such as this one is said...</div>
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What if I told you <b style="color: red; font-style: italic;">That's So Gay </b>could be considered a phrase of endearment? I'm not suggesting the community should adopt the phrase as some form of catch phrase, but we could change our perspective on the phrase itself. It's almost like <a href="http://therighteousgay.blogspot.com/2012/05/positive-negativity.html" target="_blank">Positive Negativity</a> which I spoke of months back, just put into practice...</div>
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Before we begin, let me address/express my views on the phrase: <span style="color: red;"><b><i>That's So Gay</i></b></span>. "That's So Gay" is a poorly coined phrase that I believe, indicates idiocy and the inability to articulate oneself (when using the phrase). Put more simply: <b>It's So <u>LAME</u></b>. If I could have my way, the phrase would be wiped from this planet and using such a term would result in imprisonment... That's how opposed I am to it being said. I was once as naive as to believe that the term wouldn't harm others and I would only use the phrase in jest, however that was just my way of justifying the use of the phrase. Ultimately by disregarding/neglecting the situation, you make things worse. Fortunately, my perspective changed- and I now oppose the usage of the phrase. But can I change the worlds perspective?</blockquote>
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Changing the world's perpective will be a difficult task. I feel that first hand experience would better affect individuals rather than typing a post and hoping the world will read it... Basically; I'm going to have change perceptions through interaction with other people, and so should you. But that is not what today's post is about... </blockquote>
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Today I'm going to be showing you how to counter the hurtfulness this phrase has with some facts that definitely make being gay- <b>the BEST thing ever</b>! It's inevitable that at some point we'll hear the phrase <i style="color: red; font-weight: bold;">That's So Gay</i> being said in an attempt to devalue or defame something or someone. The term is usually said with a negative connotation, but it should not mean that to you. Gay connotes/implies homosexual (ie attracted to the same gender), but if we're looking beyond it's definitive meaning- being gay can imply greater things too. For example:<br />
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<li> <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Apple_Inc." target="_blank"><span style="color: #6aa84f;"><b>Apple Inc.</b></span></a> (Makers of the Iphone, Ipod etc) are the largest publicly traded corporation in the world by market capitalization. Not only does the company openly support LGBT rights, but the CEO -<b><span style="color: #6aa84f;"> <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tim_Cook" target="_blank"><span style="color: #6aa84f;">Tim Cook</span></a>,</span></b> happens to be gay himself. He also is the world's highest paid CEO of 2012. <span style="color: red;"><b><i>That's So Gay: </i>Being the WORLD'S highest paid CEO of the WORLD'S largest publicly traded corporation...</b></span></li>
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<li><b style="color: red;"> </b>What would this post be without our straight allies? To name a few of the famous and straight celebrities on our side: Brad Pitt (actor), Pink (singer), Drew Barrymore (actress), Madonna (singer), Oprah Winfrey (talk show host), Steven Spielberg (film director), Ben Cohen (rugby player), Adam Levine (singer) and many more. Literally: Anne Hathaway, Colin Farrell, David Pocock (rugby player), Chris Kluwe (Footballer), Beyonce, JayZ, Josh Hutcherson, Jennifer Aniston, Cyndi Lauper, Hillary Duff, Rosario Dawson, Clint Eastwood, Charles Barkley, Kate Winslet, Sean Avery (hockey player), Daniel Radcliffe, Julianne Moore, Miley Cyrus, Sean Penn, Russel Simmons, Natalie Portman, George Clooney, Hudson Taylor (wrestler), Angelina Jolie, Kelly and Sharon Osbourne, Barbra Streisand, Justin Bieber, Joan Rivers, Desmond Tutu and Barack Obama. <span style="color: red;"><b><i>That's So Gay: </i>Having most of Hollywood and a president support your rights (and your right to marry)...</b></span></li>
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Looking above, it makes it difficult to believe that the phrase could ever be used in a negative sense. Next time you hear someone make this offensive remark- pause, and remember: Being gay is <b>NEVER</b> a bad thing. Revise one of the points above mentioned, and recite it to yourself every time someone makes the remark <i style="color: red; font-weight: bold;">That's So Gay</i>. It's about time we associate being gay with being advantaged. More importantly: if you're still in school and phrases like these are thrown around regularly: just remember that most of these people are inexperienced and uneducated about the gay community. People's perceptions are likely to change once they mature, I know mine did. </div>
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<span style="color: purple;"><b>THIS POST WOULD NOT BE POSSIBLE WITHOUT THE AMAZINGLY TALENTED <a href="http://brightaboveme.tumblr.com/" target="_blank">CATHERINE TAIT</a>, WHO NOT ONLY SUPPORTS ME FOR WHO I AM- BUT SUPPORTS THE WHOLE LGBT COMMUNITY AND OUR INDIVIDUALITY. THANK YOU CATHERINE: THE WORLD NEEDS MORE BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE SUCH AS YOURSELF!</b></span></div>
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The Righteous Gayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18214030645990282669noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906831979502437371.post-18312906783430801402012-09-08T11:03:00.000-07:002012-09-08T11:09:30.099-07:00Oscar Pistorius: The Golden Boy<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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80 000 cheers makes it impossible to deny that <a href="http://www.oscarpistorius.com/about" target="_blank">Oscar Pistorius</a>, the South African blade runner, has grown to become a household name and a Paralympic ambassador - but is he more than just an advocate for the handicapped?<br />
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With the recent <a href="http://www.london2012.com/paralympics/sports/" target="_blank">Paralympic Games</a> being held in London - I have been captivated by all these inspiring athletes and their incredible stories, but none more so than Oscar Pistorius. Oscar Pistorius was born November 22, 1986 without a fibula in each of his legs. It was decided that Oscar's legs would be amputated below the knees before he learnt to walk- as this would allow greater receptivity in mobility later on in life, and evidently prove to be his strength rather than his weakness. Oscar initially played rugby, water polo and tennis in Pretoria Boys High School (the highschool I too attended), and it was only after a rugby injury that Oscar began running, for rehabilitation. The rest is, as they say, history... Currently Oscar holds the world record for the T44 400m, and also the T44 4x100m along with his fellow team mates. Oscar is also the ONLY double leg amputee EVER to compete on the Olympic track and make the Olympic final.<br />
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After watching the Paralympic games one evening I realized that being handicapped can be likened to being homosexual in many ways. (KEEP READING!) Not only are both handicapped people and homosexuals treated as second hand citizens, but we both have an internal obstacle to overcome. Just as Oscar, and many other disabled athletes had to overcome their impairments, we as homosexuals have to overcome our internalized fear of being who we are. In no way am I trivializing being either handicapped or homosexual - I am just comparing the struggles we both endure, just as our struggles have been compared to many other civil rights movements. This leads me to the relevance of Oscar Pistorius and his story on a blog intending to help gay youth come to terms with their sexuality. Oscar <b>was born</b> without a fibula in each leg and yet it hasn't prevented him from running, let alone walking. Being a double leg amputee, it would go without saying that Oscar has had a great amount of obstacles to overcome, not only physically but mentally too. Yet, here he stands, a handicapped athlete, challenging able bodied athletes at the sport.<br />
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So we're born gay, just as Oscar was born without fibulae, and here we stand confronted with this huge life obstacle we call sexuality, which in many ways scares us just as much as a physical defect. What do we do? We do what Oscar Pistorius has done, we make our weakness our strength. Oscar may be an advocate for The Paralympics, but he represents something far greater! Oscar represents the outcome of dedication, appreciation and passion, all things we as homosexuals need to adopt. <b><span style="color: #f1c232;">Dedicate</span></b> yourself to making your environment an LGBT friendlier one. <span style="color: #674ea7;"><b>Appreciate</b></span> who you are, and this life you've been given- do so by making the most of every moment. Lastly, what ever you do- do so with passion.<b><span style="color: red;"> Passion</span></b> is what drives you to obtain the unobtainable and achieve the impossible. Passion will guide you to what you heart desires.<br />
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Regardless whether you agree that homosexuality and being handicapped are similar or not, you cannot deny that Oscar Pistorius has made the most of what he has. You are in no way different to Oscar, and there is nothing you cannot achieve. Oscar looked beyond the ability to walk- just as you should look beyond the obstacle of coming out. Dream big. Dream of an accepting world, living with the person you love and being authentic to yourself. If you can dream it, it's yours for the taking!<br />
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<br />The Righteous Gayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18214030645990282669noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906831979502437371.post-68225562574681274402012-09-05T14:49:00.003-07:002012-09-11T08:13:05.517-07:00Support At The VMA'sTomorrow is the <b>MTV Video Music Awards</b>, so I thought I'd take the opportunity to share with you some artists that are worth reading about.<br />
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Music has been the one constant in my life. We all relate to music in different ways, and regardless whether it's rock, electronic or classical, music has been there for us through out time. Music tells a story and sometimes it just uplifts one's spirit. I know that many of you out there feel as though music may have saved your life, and I think to a certain degree we've all been just as moved. A combination of music and emotion.<br />
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Personally, I take more interest in an artist when they're more than just a famous figure with a great voice. When an artist shares their own vulnerability, their pain or even when they show their support- it allows me to greater connect. Today I will be sharing some artists that I feel are prevalent in the support of gay rights.<br />
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Although many people would suggest that artists who support human rights do so strategically to obtain more exposure/publicity (and ultimately a bigger fan base), they are also loosing a percentage of support by supporting gay rights. The reason I believe so many artists still show their support for the LGBT community is because it's the right thing to do. When you relate to music- you connect with an artist, and when you know that the artist supports you as a whole, it makes that connection so much more authentic.<br />
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Recently, some rather large names have been showing their true colors in support. Both <b>Kanye West</b> and <b>JayZ </b>spoke up for marriage equality when they backed Barack Obama in his announcement of support earlier this year. <b>50 Cent</b> showed his support in a recent interview when talking about rapper Frank Ocean's sudden coming out. <b>Adam Levine</b> and <b>Madonna</b> (who both have a gay brother) are constantly standing up for the community as are divas; Cher, Kylie Minogue, Lady Gaga, Cindy Lauper, Alanis Morissette, Katy Perry, Nicki Minaj, Mariah Carey, Beyonce and Christina Aguilera. The support is endless, Lily Allen sings it in her song <i><b>Fuck You</b></i>, and Carly Rae Jepsen shows it in the recent hit, <i><b>Call Me Maybe</b>,</i> music video <i>. </i>And if that wasn't enough, pop icons Miley Cyrus and Pink also share their support for the community too; with Miley getting inked in support of marriage equality and Pink having a gay wedding in her <i><b>Raise Your Glass</b></i> music video.<br />
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Here I sit in the unfortunate position of not being able to share all these artists stories of support with you, simply because there is far too many. With some of the biggest names in the music industry mentioned it's hard to believe we still need support. And that's just the straight allies (as I like to call them). Lady Gaga, Sam Sparro, Ricky Martin, Elton John, Tracy Chapman, Mika, Adam Lambert, George Michael, Frank Ocean, Chris Willis, Michael Stipe (Lead singer of R.E.M), Kere Okereke (Lead singer of Bloc Party), Will Young, Lance Bass, Boy George, Freddy Mercury and all the boys of the group The Scissor Sisters are just some gay, lesbian and bisexual artists to date.When I look at this list I can't help but notice how many of these artists are <b>SO INCREDIBLE</b> at what they do and respectfully so.<br />
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After reading this star-filled blog post I want you to be left feeling in awe. Awe, because of the star power that backs the gay community and most importantly you. None of these artists are defined by their sexuality- and neither should you be. Their music, from which we gain pleasure and fulfillment is just a by-product of their amazing characters. You hear them on the radio, you play them on your ipod- and now you have them on your side. As the late Freddy Mercury once sang, "<b>open your eyes, look up to the skies and see</b>."<br />
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If you're looking to find out other gay artists check out this <a href="http://www.afterelton.com/people/2011/02/top-50-gay-musicians?page=1%2C0" target="_blank">Top 50 Gay Artist Post</a>. Also- check out <b><a href="http://therighteousgay.blogspot.com/p/video-of-week.html" target="_blank">video of the week</a> </b>to see Mika speak out about love before performing a song OR watch Mariah Carey and Kylie Minogue's gay fans purpose on stage during their concerts. Alternatively you could watch the <span style="color: #e69138;"><b>Carly Rae Jepsen</b></span> and <span style="color: magenta;"><b>Pink</b></span> music videos below.<br />
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<br />The Righteous Gayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18214030645990282669noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906831979502437371.post-18119313118692146072012-08-27T08:50:00.000-07:002012-09-04T14:35:41.520-07:00This is for youRecently there has been letters from fathers to their sons that have been making their rounds on the Twittersphere and other social networking sites. The <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/08/07/father-letter-disowning-gay-son_n_1752053.html" target="_blank">initial letter</a> that sparked all of this was a letter James (a gay individual) received from his father, in which his father expressed that he had decided to disown James as a son (and as a result disassociate himself from James). This letter sparked 2 other letters, one <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/john-kinnear/dear-hypothetically-gay-son_b_1757663.html" target="_blank">from a heterosexual father to his hypothetically gay son</a> and the other<a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/rob-watson/a-gay-dads-perspective-on-the-hate-note-writing-father_b_1822008.html" target="_blank"> from a gay father to his two adoptive sons</a>. It should be rather indicative that a letter would be appropriate for today's post. So here goes:<br />
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The recent letters that fathers have written to their sons has inspired me to leave a message to you to show my admiration for you in a more personal capacity. Coming to terms with your sexuality is a difficult process, and seldom are you ever congratulated for the courage, patience and perseverance you put in. Well this is my congratulations to you.</blockquote>
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I realize life may seem tough at the moment. Looking around there's constant battles. Battles regarding the position homosexuals occupy in modern day society, whether it's marriage equality, adoption rights or even decriminalizing homosexuality. Living in a conservative community myself, I know that being authentic to oneself is much easier said than done, but isn't impossible. Personally, I have contemplated thoughts of suicide, running away and leaving everything I have behind. At that time, anything seemed better than confronting my sexuality and the attraction to members of the same sex. I had spent countless nights crying myself to sleep as thoughts of inadequacy filled my head; never getting to fulfill the role I believed I was meant to fulfill. Then came my shame. My shame in feeling the emotions I felt. I tried to suppress the thoughts and to dismiss the truth- but it all caught up with me eventually. </blockquote>
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In pursuing this journey you may find yourself back at the starting line in many aspects of your life, but you'll find yourself at the beginning with other people just as yourself. These are the people who have cried at night with you- who felt just as alone as you did- who were ready to leave, yet here you stand, united. It's all trial and error, and you needn't feel ashamed of the mistakes you've made. Never think you're worthless or inadequate, regardless of what other peoples opinions are. I promise you a day will come, where you will look back and be thankful for the choice you made. The hurt and anger you feel now will dissipate as you begin to live your life the way your heart intended to live it. </blockquote>
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Finally, I want you to know that you are never alone. There's one person you can always rely on, and that person is you. As cliche` as it may sound, Mariah Carey says it best, "So when you feel like hope is gone look inside you and be strong, and you'll finally see the truth, that a hero lies in you." It's important you always remember that- <b>THAT A HERO LIES IN YOU</b>.</blockquote>
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The letter may seem irrelevant to many of you yet to some it might speak great volumes. My intention was to let you know that all these emotions you might be experiencing are not irregular. Regardless your age, gender, race and religion- coming out is an emotional experience. So if you too sit up at night and cry till your tear ducts can't anymore, if you constantly thinking about how inadequate you think you are , even if you read this letter and wished you weren't gay- this is for you... No one said it would be easy- they said it'd be worth it. AND IT WILL BE!<br />
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<b>If you have any personal questions or you need someone to talk to- do not hesitate to email me (gregodemi@gmail.com). I keep my emails separate from the blog, private. </b><br />
The Righteous Gayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18214030645990282669noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906831979502437371.post-58919680276466036962012-08-07T08:30:00.000-07:002012-08-07T08:39:13.094-07:00Brand SupportA new post is well overdue. Admittedly I have been so preoccupied with the Olympics- that much of my life has been put on pause- but not my blog! If any of you were hoping I would do a post regarding the Olympic games- I have already covered it in a previous post entitled <a href="http://therighteousgay.blogspot.com/2012/05/sport-gaymes.html" target="_blank">Sport GAYmes</a>. You can also see who the 22 openly gay Olympians participating in this years Olympic games are by clicking this <a href="http://outsports.com/jocktalkblog/2012/07/18/9-openly-gay-and-lesbian-athletes-at-2012-london-summer-olympics/" target="_blank">Outsports link</a>.<br />
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Apart from the Olympic Games covering the front pages of the news recently; there has also been a lot of gay-related news. One particular story that I noticed was the American fast-food company Chick-fill-A's stance on homosexuality. Appalled at what company president Dan Cathy had to say about the gays- and the battle that has pursued- I decided that I would use this time to share brands known world-wide that SUPPORT HOMOSEXUALITY AND EQUALITY (the true pioneers of anti-discrimination). <br />
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Many of you may be familiar with Google. Google has largely become the encyclopedia to many questions we encounter on day-to-day occasions. For those unaware of <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Google" target="_blank">Google</a> (you need to step out of your cave), Google is a multinational corporation, and is famously known for their web search engine <span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;">Goo</span><span style="color: #e69138; font-weight: bold;">gle</span> <span style="color: #38761d; font-weight: bold;">sea</span><span style="color: blue; font-weight: bold;">rch</span>. Google launched their new <a href="http://www.google.com/diversity/legalise-love.html" target="_blank">Legalize Love</a> campaign earlier in July this year. Their aim is to support members of the LGBT community, focusing specifically on places with homophobic cultures. Google are continuously showing their support for equality and the community. Below is a video released on Valentines Day this year by Google and its employees:<br />
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One company that wasn't initially met with open arms, when showing their support for the LGBT community, was Electronic Arts, Inc. (<a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ea_games" target="_blank">EA Games</a>). Many of you may know EA Games for the games they've released, with titles including: Need for Speed, The Sims, Fifa and the Harry Potter series. One game in particular included the option of a gay romance in the plot- Mass Effect 3. Many anti-gay organizations were angered by this decision, but EA Games' vice president of corporate communications Jeff Brown defended their decision claiming, "...In short, we do put options for same-sex relationships in our games; we don't tolerate hate speech on our forums." Now gamers world-wide can utilize the option of playing games and being gay. (Below is a short scene from Mass Effect 3 with gay characters- probably an age restriction of 16)<br />
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Among the many other brands: <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Amazon.com" target="_blank">Amazon</a>, the worlds largest online retailer, pledged $2.5 million to help pass a referendum on same-sex marriage in Washington State. <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Microsoft" target="_blank">Microsoft</a>, the world's largest software makers, was one of the first companies to offer employee benefits to same-sex domestic partners- they also have a resource group called <a href="http://www.microsoft.com/about/diversity/en/us/programs/ergen/gleam.aspx" target="_blank">Gleam</a> for LGBT employees and have also donated money towards marriage equality campaigns. Those not yet mentioned; Apple, Walt Disney Co, Starbucks and many other companies (some displayed below) are also among these supporters of LGBT rights and marriage equality. </div>
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Many of the brands mentioned above are household brand names. Most of them are the leading brands in their fields- and the reason they support equal rights and gay rights is simply because it is the right thing to do. In today's society- publicity is enormously important, and no one wants to associate with companies that have prejudice and discriminant views. The irony is that majority of the homophobic people in the world- use LGBT supportive brands on a daily basis and although one company speaks out about it's anti-gay/homophobic views- another 10 come out in support of the LGBT community. Have a look at these brands- and remember to show your support in return (they've all been here awhile anyways). <br />
<br /></div>The Righteous Gayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18214030645990282669noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906831979502437371.post-45433149943876262962012-07-18T09:33:00.000-07:002012-07-18T09:37:27.097-07:00Mandela Day<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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It's one of the worlds' most iconic hero's birthday today. Nelson Mandela. For the very few of you that do not know Mandela, you can read up about him in this bio on <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nelson_Mandela" target="_blank">wikipedia</a>. Nelson Mandela is a man I am largely inspired by (if you do not believe me- look to the top right hand corner and you will find a quote by him). Not only was he an anti-apartheid activist, but he also fought for equality. Equality in it's true form- meaning no exclusions of the minorities.<br />
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On a day such as today, which was declared International Mandela Day by the United Nations in 2009, I think it is important we recognize the struggles some endure for the greater good, just as Mandela did. Also it is important we share our support for those who are still in the fight today. There are still many countries where equality is a distant dream- where woman, gays and transgenders still do not have rights. For the people of these countries- freedom and equality aren't as prevalent, and it is important we show our support- even if it is words of reassurance or signing your name to a petition. <span style="background-color: white;">And although today is a day of celebration we need to look back and acknowledge why we are where we are today, and show our appreciation.</span><br />
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In the image depicted above the words "<span style="color: #3d85c6;"><b>Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world</b></span>." are written. I often think that homophobic people fear us due to their lack of understanding. We essentially become teachers when we come out, which leads me to another quote of Mandela...<br />
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<span style="text-align: center;">"<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>If you want to make peace with your enemy, you have to work with your enemy</b>.</span></span><span style="font-size: 13px; text-align: center;">"</span><span style="text-align: center;"> If we ever expect homophobic people to learn about and understand us- we have to help them understand/learn. Although this may seem "easier said than done" it does not mean it is impossible. I remind you of Mary Griffith, a homophobic mother, who began to learn more about homosexuality after her gay sons death. It may be difficult but it is not impossible.</span><br />
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Nelson Mandela fought for freedom in a country were many had given up on it. Often, it may feel as though your'e alone, but it's only when you stand up that you begin to see the others who are there with you. 18th of July is not only Mandela's birthday- it is a day to inspire others to stand up and fight for equality. It is important we do not accept defeat- rather get involved. Remember " <b><span style="color: #cc0000;">There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that people won't feel insecure around you.</span></b>" <span style="color: red;">(-Nelson Mandela)</span></div>
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<b><br /></b>The Righteous Gayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18214030645990282669noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906831979502437371.post-7496710500765112262012-07-17T09:16:00.001-07:002012-07-17T09:16:45.487-07:00Frequently Asked Questions About HomosexualityAlmost a month ago I was emailed by a gentleman struggling to come to terms with his sexuality. He had seen my blog and decided to email me some questions he had regarding homosexuality. After exchanging many emails between one another the gentleman offered to allow me to use our conversation in future posts to aid others who had similar questions as he did. This offer is what led me to the idea for a post: Frequently Asked Questions About Homosexuality. <div>
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<span style="background-color: white;">What I have decided on is that I will try answer one question per post. This way I can ensure not to omit any information regarding the question at hand- also it will allow me to include more external references without overloading you with information. I would also like to take this time to invite you to submit any questions you have regarding homosexuality. <span style="color: magenta;">It is also important that I notify all readers that these answers will be of personal perspective and from personal experience</span>. It therefore cannot necessarily be deemed correct but I can promise to share as much insight on the topic being discussed.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;">So I've decided to start with a question that most gay people start their journeys with. First let me define homosexuality. Homosexuality is sexual attraction to persons of the same sex. Although the definition seems rather simple- knowing whether you are homosexual can be a complicating situation. I express my finding of my sexuality as this: I always knew I was attracted to other men, it is something I can remember from around the ages of 10/11, but I could only label or define it as homosexuality at a later stage of my life. </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;">You may be reading that and thinking "but how did you know?" I think some people can tell from earlier stages than others whether they are gay, but sometimes we have an issue acknowledging/interpreting this information. It starts with attraction. As a child I could always appreciate the attractiveness of other guys more than with girls. Personally at the time I thought nothing of it- but I knew that there was some attraction present. Through out my adolescence I found myself watching pornographic videos as many other teenagers do. (You will have to excuse my vulgarity) I noticed that I was more sexually drawn to the males anatomy than the females. In actual fact, the comparison was so out of proportion that I could just watch the man. It was then that I began watching gay pornography. Note: I am not suggesting everyone download pornographic videos- I am simply stating my personal experience. </span></div>
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It doesn't necessarily mean you are gay because you have feelings for friends of the same sex or because you have had a gay dream- I feel these aren't effective enough indicators. I believe <span style="color: #674ea7;"><b>a good indicator is whether you fantasize about members of the same sex</b>.</span> (For example- during masturbation). Men who fantasize about other men during masturbation are more likely to be homosexual than heterosexual. This could be because fantasizing can be directly traced to our desires. </div>
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Another observation I have made is that <span style="color: #3d85c6;"><b>many people whom experience attraction for members of the same sex usually fear the association with being labeled gay</b>.</span> (Basically they are aware of their attraction but are too conflicted to identify as homosexual) I actually have addressed this issue in another post <a href="http://therighteousgay.blogspot.com/2012/06/labels-are-not-my-name.html" target="_blank">"Labels" Are Not My Name</a> . If you find yourself in a similar situation it is important you understand that identifying as gay shouldn't mean you have to live up to a stereotype, also your attraction to members of the same sex isn't <span style="background-color: white;">ever </span><span style="background-color: white;">likely to </span><span style="background-color: white;">disappear</span><span style="background-color: white;">. Focus on learning to accept your true sexuality rather than trying to dismiss it. </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;">"How do I know if I am homosexual?" is a difficult question to answer. I believe the only answer to this question lies within yourself. Do not ask yourself "Do I <i>WANT</i> to be homosexual?", rather approach it more open-minded "Am I sexually attracted to members of the same sex?". When you ask yourself this question think only of the answer. There is no rush to define your sexuality, to identify as gay or straight, so take your time. Remember attraction to members of the same sex is not something you can dismiss or forget about (your sexuality will never leave you).</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><b>For more information visit this <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Know-if-You-Are-Gay" target="_blank">wiki site</a> (specifically their Tips and Warnings). This might further help you answer your question.</b></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><i><span style="color: #e69138;">If you have any questions or issues regarding your sexuality email me @ gregodemi@gmail.com.</span></i></span></div>
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I've already mentioned how important it is that we expose our youth to successful gay role models in a <span style="background-color: white;">previous post entitled </span><span style="background-color: white; color: lime;">The Gay 5</span><span style="background-color: white;">. It is vital to have some form of guidance when growing up - but it's even more important to realize what we </span><b style="background-color: white;">as people</b><span style="background-color: white;"> are capable of,</span><b style="background-color: white;"> regardless of our sexuality</b><span style="background-color: white;">! The youth are constantly being told "It gets better"- and that is true, but we should also be saying "Don't stop dreaming". </span><b style="background-color: white;">Being gay does not disable you from achieving success</b><span style="background-color: white;">.</span><br />
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Although there are hundreds of icons worth mentioning, especially within the field of arts (directing, acting and so on), I want to try expose the audience to different openly gay figures out there. Bare in mind that many successful businessmen/women do not disclose their sexuality to the public- so there are probably hundreds more than actually documented. Let me begin with the sportsman previously mentioned in <a href="http://therighteousgay.blogspot.com/2012/05/sport-gaymes.html" target="_blank">Sport GAYmes</a> - Matthew Mitcham.<br />
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All of you should be familiar with the fashion brand Louis Vuitton (LV). It's relevance? <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marc_Jacobs" target="_blank">Marc Jacobs</a>! Jacobs has been the creative director of the French design house (LV) since 1997, and is the head designer of Marc Jacobs. He was part of Times' 2010 "100 Most Influential People in the World" list and also ranked 12th on Out Magazines 2012 "50 Most Powerful Gay Men and Women in America" list. Good at what he does is an understatement- Marc is a designing mogul!<br />
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Besides fashion there are also gays in charge in the corporate world. Ever heard of Apple products? Of coarse you have! Most of you probably own an iphone, imac or ipod. Whether you own all of these products or none- you would be glad to know that the CEO of Apple, <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tim_Cook" target="_blank">Tim Cook</a>, is a gay man. That means that Cook is in charge of the worlds most valuable company! Not only is Cook the top of Out Magazines 2012 "50 Most Powerful Gay Men and Women in America" list- he is also the highest paid CEO in the WORLD.<br />
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Moving onto other news, <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anderson_Cooper" target="_blank">Anderson Cooper</a> has recently publicly announced he's gay. (Hope you noticed what I did there!) Anderson Cooper is the primary anchor of the CNN's Anderson Cooper 360<i style="font-family: sans-serif; line-height: 19px;">°</i><span style="background-color: white;"> show. Not only does he have his own show- but Cooper has won numerous awards for his reporting including Emmy Awards and the National Order of Honour and Merit award for his reporting on the 2010 Haiti earthquake.</span><br />
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Besides those mentioned above- there are still many other successful gays in today's society! The reason so many gay men and women are as successful as they are is simply due to the fact that their sexuality does not incapacitate them from achieving success. Bayard Rustin (Civil Rights activist), Perez Hilton (blogger), SIR Elton John (musician), Wanda Sykes (comedian), Lady Gaga (musician) and Walt Disney Studios chairman- Rich Ross are only some of the names among many that are successful in their field of work.<br />
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Your sexuality does not define you as a person- so why should it determine you success? It is essential you know that identifying as gay does not limit your capabilities in any way. Do not allow others opinions to prevent you from achieving what it is you wish to achieve. Remember- success does not imply wealthy and famous. Success is accomplishing something you aim to do. More importantly stay ambitious and keep dreaming...<br />
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<br />The Righteous Gayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18214030645990282669noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906831979502437371.post-6658837800149197362012-06-29T07:48:00.000-07:002012-06-29T07:48:38.363-07:00Gay to StayAlright- I know it has been a while. My computer was in computer hospital and I have been working on a post that is still incomplete. Ultimately I have decided to share a more shorter post that admittedly is not entirely my own... My aim is to expose the audience to what is and has always been here before. <span style="background-color: black; color: red;">G</span><span style="background-color: black; color: orange;">a</span><span style="background-color: black; color: yellow;">y</span><span style="background-color: black;"> </span><span style="background-color: black; color: lime;">l</span><span style="background-color: black; color: cyan;">o</span><span style="background-color: black; color: magenta;">v<span style="color: white;">e</span></span><span style="background-color: black;">.</span><br />
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The inspiration behind my post today was found in another blog entitled <a href="http://everydaygay.blogspot.com/2010/06/100-years-of-gay-couples-part-one-1875.html" target="_blank">Finding Myself</a>. I stumbled across this blog upon Googling "<a href="https://www.google.co.za/search?um=1&hl=en&client=firefox-a&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&channel=np&q=Vintage+gay+couple+photos&biw=1360&bih=629&bav=on.2,or.r_gc.r_pw.r_qf.,cf.osb&ie=UTF-8&tbm=isch&source=og&sa=N&tab=wi&ei=G63tT_itH9K6hAfKx_GGDQ" target="_blank">Vintage Gay Couple Photos</a>" which I'd advise you to do sometime when you are bored! What surprised me the most was that there were more photos than I had expected of gay couples. I understand many gay men and women have walked this land before I- but I did not expect it to be as documented!<br />
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<span style="font-size: x-large;">O<span style="font-size: small;">ne thing that has stood the test of time is love. Whether it be in a different time, place or manner - we all <span style="color: black;">love</span>. Another quality that sets<span style="color: red;"> love</span> above the rest is that it <span style="color: red;">does not discriminate against age, gender, race, religion or appearance</span>. It can be found in the most unexpected places...</span></span></blockquote>
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Why discuss love on a blog that aims to help people come to terms with their sexuality? It's simple really. Love is something everyone can look forward too. Regardless your sexuality- love is an emotion everyone can experience. What better than to expose my audience to a love similar to theirs? Allow me to take you back in time- where a love like yours too existed... Although it was tougher to live openly in those days, these couples did not deny themselves the opportunity to find REAL love. Here are some photos from back in time: </blockquote>
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Although it may seem like homosexuality is a new concept to modern society, it is not. Homosexuality dates centuries back, further than the first photo in this post! It will take a considerable amount of years before society is more accepting of homosexuality- but this should not stop you from finding true love... I cannot begin to imagine the scrutiny these couples have endured- yet all of that seems meaningless when I look at these photos. Love is an emotion that has stood the test of time- it is stronger than all else. To find a love so genuine, so real is more validating and liberating than having to live a life of lies and deception. Never deny yourself the opportunity to find true love... <br />
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<b>** <span style="color: magenta;">Check out more photos at</span> <a href="http://everydaygay.blogspot.com/2010/06/100-years-of-gay-couples-part-one-1875.html" target="_blank">Finding Myself</a> <span style="color: magenta;">and</span> <a href="http://gaytwogether.typepad.com/gaytwogether/vintage_photo_memories/" target="_blank">GAYTWOGETHER</a> **</b><br />
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<b>Image Posted by<span style="color: #741b47;"> <span style="color: #674ea7;">Israel Defense Forces</span></span> onto Facebook with the caption "<span class="hasCaption">It's Pride Month. Did you know that the <span style="color: #674ea7;">IDF</span> treats all of its soldiers equally?"</span></b></blockquote>
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<span style="font-size: large;">S</span>eeing as it is a new month- I thought it would be the perfect time to do an update on a previous post! To keep "time-based posts" relevant I will use updates to bring them up-to-date. This way- I can ensure a long relationship with current viewers and myself! (Smiles)<br />
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<a href="http://therighteousgay.blogspot.com/2012/04/picture-this.html" target="_blank">Picture This</a> was a post were I referred readers to blogs depicting gay couples. I spoke of how viewing blogs such as them- reassured me about my decision to come out, how they inspired me and how they reassured me of who I am. Now that I am openly gay- I still spend copious amounts of time viewing these sites. Day-dreaming. Imagining...<br />
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At first, I found myself envious of the fact that all these people photographed had found love. I soon realized that it was not envy that brought me back- rather the inspiration I found in them. When I stumble across a photo like this:<br />
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I begin to wonder what possibilities await... The thought that love like this exists leaves me excited. It leaves me interested in life and all the beauties it has to offer.<br />
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Perhaps you won't take as much as I do from these sites, regardless, you should definitely check them out! I have started my own tumblr account where I blog and reblog the photos that I find refreshing! The blog is also called <b><a href="http://therighteousgay.tumblr.com/" target="_blank">The Righteous Gay</a> </b>except the address is <span style="color: #bf9000;">http://therighteousgay.tumblr.com/</span> <br />
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Personally, I have found something special in each of these sites. Go ahead and make your day... <br />
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<li style="text-align: left;"><b><span style="font-size: small;"><a href="http://theright-track.tumblr.com/page/2" target="_blank">Love has no Limits</a></span></b></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><b><span style="font-size: small;"><a href="http://loveissocute.tumblr.com/" target="_blank">Love is so cute</a></span></b></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><b><span style="font-size: small;"><a href="http://thetruthisfinallyrevealed.tumblr.com/" target="_blank">It's Time</a></span></b></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><b><span style="font-size: small;"><a href="http://fight-against-hate.tumblr.com/" target="_blank">Don't Back Down Project</a></span></b></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><b><span style="font-size: small;"><a href="http://gaykissesandlove.tumblr.com/" target="_blank">Gay Kissed and Love</a></span></b></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><b><span style="font-size: small;"><a href="http://www.blogger.com/"><span id="goog_1887644123"></span>Gay Male Love</a><span id="goog_1887644124"></span></span></b></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><b><span style="font-size: small;"><a href="http://nobodyknowsthelastofme.tumblr.com/" target="_blank">Nobody Know the Last of Me</a></span></b> (My personal favorite!) </li>
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(These sites may contain nudity- If you click on a link- <b style="color: red;">do so at your
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You can view the Facebook page depicting the Israeli soldiers <a href="http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=425165480839661&set=a.250335824989295.62131.125249070831305&type=1&permPage=1" target="_blank">here</a>.<br />
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<i>One last one for all you viewers.. </i><br />
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<br />The Righteous Gayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18214030645990282669noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906831979502437371.post-26284832876910192412012-06-07T04:24:00.002-07:002012-06-07T04:33:48.333-07:00"Labels" are not my name<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"> I</span>t was brought to my attention the other day that many closeted youth fear the social stigma in being associated as a homosexual. I often hear friends expressing their fear with being classified as a "poff" or a "fairy"- so I would like to set the record straight for all closeted youth out there.<br />
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Often homosexuality is affiliated with effeminate behavior in men and masculine behavior in woman. <b>This is more a generalization than a fact.</b> With the short amount of time that I have been exposed to the gay community I would actually say that- gay men are now associated more with perfect bodies and over emasculating behavior than anything else. Once again- I have made an assumption based on my experiences, it is not to say this is completely true. Regardless whether these stereotypes are authentic or valid- their importance to you should be null and void.<br />
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In todays society people are over-conscious with the image they portray. We are constantly in this struggle to fit in. It first occurs when we can not identify with our straight friends' attraction to the opposite sex, furthermore, as a teenager when our bodies change shape and take form. Then- as you come out, there is this undeniable pressure to associate yourself with certain labels. Labels which categorize you- based on your physical appearance and behavior. Therefore, once again, a need to fit in.<br />
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This all leads me to my main message. Being gay does not mean you have to enjoy dancing, wear make-up and listen to Lady Gaga. But if that is what you enjoy doing- don't let me, or anyone else, stop you from doing that. It is vital that you know- when you do come out it does not mean you have to live up to a label or a stereotype. Don't fear being gay because you dislike the stereotype associated with it- rather break that stereotype. On the same note, if you enjoy living up to the stereotype- there is nothing wrong with that! <b>You can just be YOU!</b><br />
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<u><b>Final Thought:</b></u> <br />
"Fairy. Queen. Muscular. Fem. Camp. Masculine."<i> Why change yourself for other people?</i> <b>We essentially come out the closet to live a more open and genuine life- not to change who we are</b>. It is our differences that make us unique- not our similarities. Regardless whether you live up to the stereotype or not- you should not fear a life of honesty. Being gay will not change who you are. There is no need to label yourself or associate yourself with anything... Don't let the stereotype scare you back into the closet- it's darker back there anyways! <br />
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<br />The Righteous Gayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18214030645990282669noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906831979502437371.post-59202340673922254612012-05-29T13:20:00.000-07:002012-10-25T03:06:04.677-07:00Reasons I LOVE Being GayAdmittedly, the posts this month have not been as effective/ moving as last month's. So today I have decided I would post something fun to read and, perhaps, more entertaining than before. I have composed a list. This list is entitled "Top Ten Reasons I LOVE Being Gay". It's rather self explanatory- but for those who do not follow- allow me to explain. This list is made up of reasons why I enjoy being homosexual... I cannot explain- rather read it! Your list may differ- but here are my reasons(starting from 10 working up to 1):<br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><b><span style="font-size: small;">Appreciation for both sexes.</span></b><span style="font-size: small;"> It would go without saying that I find men attractive- but I can also appreciate attractive woman. Many straight men are less fortunate in the sense that even if they believe another man is good-looking- they wouldn't dare admit it. Being gay allows me to say "You're good-looking" to both guys and girls without having to worry what is thought of me.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-size: small;"><b>Celebrity support.</b> Ever stopped and thought- Charlize Theron supports my decision to marry someone of the same sex? Or perhaps that the president of America does too? It's so refreshing to know that Josh Hutcherson, the cute guy from <i>The Hunger Games</i>, is campaigning for people such as myself. With names such as: Brad Pitt, Angelina Jolie, Drew Barrymore, Colin Farrell, Anne Hathaway and many more supporting gay rights- it's hard to not to boast!</span></span></span></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-size: large;"><b><span style="font-size: small;">Meeting new friends. </span></b><span style="font-size: small;">One of the scariest thoughts I had when coming out- was the thought of loosing all my friends. The reality is you probably might loose some friends- but on your journey you will come to realise that many of your friendships have strengthened. In fact friends whom you never thought would cope with the issue could positively surprise you! You will also meet new people and experience new friendships! </span></span></span></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-size: large;"><b><span style="font-size: small;">Being part of a cause.</span></b><span style="font-size: small;"> I love this reason. Majority of you have experienced a history lesson sometime in your life- going back in time and learning about defining moments- such as movements, riots and protests all done for a greater cause. Being gay automatically makes you part of a cause. We all play a part in society- and we all have the ability to change perspectives or even teach and help others about homosexuality. I think it's rather cool- writing history- as we make progression in the world regarding gay rights. </span></span></span></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-size: large;"><b><span style="font-size: small;">Being myself. </span></b><span style="font-size: small;">I know it might sound lame- but it is honestly my top reason. Getting to live a life of being honest with my family, and friends. The reason this is more important to me than love- is because I find you have to love yourself before you can love another. By that I mean accepting yourself</span></span> for who you are... <b>The best reason to be gay- is getting to live life genuinely!</b></span></span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: small;">If you're still closeted and found yourself reading this list- my message to you would be; being gay has its negatives BUT it certainly has its positives too. If being gay was as horrible as many make it out to be- then why do so many still come out and live openly? It's easy to focus on the negatives, rather think of your own list! It needn't be 10 reasons- it could be one strong reason. At the end of the day- you should be conscious of why you came out or plan on doing so. There are so many reasons to love who you are- all you have to do is start looking...</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: small;">Usually my posts are of more personal perspective- feature articles if you like. Today I've decided to do a post more news related. Usually I try avoid news related articles- seeing as the content can be rather saddening and uninspiring and instead I try keep content as positive as possible. Today's post will be no less enlightening than any before- perhaps you might learn a thing or two. I find that the more you educate yourself on topics such as these- the easier it becomes to educate others. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;">Recently, gay-related incidents have been the center of attention internationally. In the past month:</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;"><u>In America:</u> A ban on same-sex marriage was approved in North Carolina when <a href="http://www.ballotpedia.org/wiki/index.php/North_Carolina_Same-Sex_Marriage,_Amendment_1_%28May_2012%29" target="_blank">Amendment 1</a> was voted for by more than 60% of the state.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;"><u>In Russia:</u> Laws were passed in the city of St. Petersburg, banning any “public activities promoting sodomy, lesbianism, bisexuality and transgender identity", with similar laws being passed in other regions of Russia too.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;"><u>In Iran:</u> Four men have been sentenced to hang (death penalty) for partaking in homosexual activities. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;"><u>In South Africa:</u> A proposal was made by The House of Traditional Leaders to remove the term "sexual orientation" from the South African constitution. (The proposal was overturned).</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;"><u>In Zimbabwe:</u> The Minister of Local Government, Public Works and Urban Development urged traditional leaders to seize land owned by gay and lesbian citizens.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;">With </span><span style="font-size: small;">78 countries that still criminalise same-sex sexual acts and stories as above unfolding on a weekly basis</span><span style="font-size: small;">- there still has never been a better time to come out. By that I mean that even though there is all this saddening news unfolding- the world is generally more accepting of homosexuality than ever before. Albeit slow- there is progression regarding acceptance of sexuality. For example- the American president, Barack Obama, came forward and verbalized his support for gay marriage- the first ever to do so. Famous actor- Will Smith and popular rapper- JayZ followed suit mentioning their support of both gay marriage and Barack Obama. In Malawi, the new reigning president has promised to overturn the ban on homosexual acts- Malawi being one of many African countries where homosexuality is illegal. In Havana, Cuba, Mariela Castro (daughter of the Cuban president Raul Castro) mentioned her fathers backing of equal rights for gays and lesbians. In England- </span><span style="font-size: small;">British Prime Minister David Cameron has also expressed his support of the LGBT community. </span><span style="font-size: small;"><br /></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;">Today it might seem like society hasn't made much progression- but
perhaps in a years time that 78 figure will be a 75. Maybe majority of
America will have marriage equality- setting off a chain
reaction...Australia. United Kingdom. France! Lastly- that death
penalty for homosexuality may be erased from our world. Regardless whether it happens in a year or not- Imagine it... It has to start somewhere. <i>(There's a little activism in all of us)</i></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;">There is still a need for improvement regarding the position the homosexual occupies in present-day society. BUT this doesn't necessarily mean that the position we occupy is inert. Most importantly we have to support one-another as a community. It's inevitable that with greater support the world will slowly start to shows its <span style="background-color: red;">tr</span><span style="background-color: orange;">ue</span><span style="background-color: yellow;"> </span><span style="background-color: lime;"><span style="background-color: yellow;">c</span><span style="background-color: lime;">o</span></span><span style="background-color: cyan;"><span style="background-color: lime;">l</span>or</span><span style="background-color: magenta;">s.</span> I personally look forward to this day!</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit; font-size: small;"> </span>The Righteous Gayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18214030645990282669noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906831979502437371.post-49027397237371628162012-05-16T01:10:00.001-07:002012-05-16T01:12:48.138-07:00Prayers for Bobby: Mother's Day Special<div align="center" style="margin: 0pt 40px;">
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<span style="font-size: small;"><span lang="en-us">Considering it was Mothers day this past weekend- I have decided to post a story I felt I needed to share. This weekend I watched a movie titled "<a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1073510/" target="_blank">Prayers for Bobby</a>" which is based on a biographic novel (true story). The story is of Mary Griffith- mother of Bobby, a homosexual boy who is at a crossroads regarding his sexuality and faith. The movie was very saddening but I felt that, due to it's fictional content, the story probably describes what many of you are experiencing. </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;"><span lang="en-us">I will give you a basic synopsis of the film. The audience is introduced to what, at first, appears to be a happy family- the Griffith's. As the movie progresses- it is learned that Bobby questions his sexuality and begins to realise his attraction to the same sex. Bobby's parents soon learn about his secret which is met with regret. After much therapy and church classes Bobby begins to believe he is "incurable" (which is true) and that he is going to hell (which is not true). This leads Bobby to become depressed and Bobby decides to take his own life. Mary Griffith, Bobby's mom, reaches the realization that homosexuality is not a sin, and as a result becomes a supporter of the <a href="http://community.pflag.org/Page.aspx?pid=194&srcid=-2" target="_blank">PFLAG</a> association going on to help others in the same predicament. </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;"><span lang="en-us">So why discuss this for Mother's day? Mary Griffith- mother of Bobby- has a very important story to share. I believe there are two important things to be learned from her story. Firstly- it is not right to take your life because you are unhappy with your situation. <b>Things do get better- it is with patience that you will come to realise this. </b>Secondly- people can make a change. Mary Griffith's opinion on homosexuality has changed vastly. This mother had to endure the tragedy of loosing a son- before coming to realize that. <b>Not everyone's story has to end like Mary's</b>.</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;"><span lang="en-us">With mother's day having passed- many of you might have experienced mixed emotions on the day. Some of you would have enjoyed the day spent with the family- others, perhaps, did not spend time with anyone. What ever your situation- I think we all have to realize that certain people hold an important place in our hearts and lives. For me- my mother is one of these people. Although she is generally accepting of my sexuality, this is too a learning experience for herself as well as my family. People often become frustrated, despondent and regretful upon the learning of your sexual orientation. <u><b>The answer is NOT in taking your life</b></u>. I do not mean to trivialize Bobby's death. I couldn't begin to imagine the pain and suffering he endured but for all viewers who consider taking Bobby's route- I will have to stop you...</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;"><span lang="en-us"> Bobby's story is unfortunate- and the gay community has had enough misfortune already. Research more about groups/organizations/associations/meetings for people such as yourself. Learn more. It is important you do not make a permanent decision (such as killing yourself) based on temporary emotions. There will come a time where you will look back and be thankful you heard about Bobby and Mary's story- and you will smile knowing the story never ended the same.</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;"><b><span lang="en-us">To read more about Mary and Bobby's story- visit this<a href="http://www.pflagdc.org/programs/support/stories/robert-bernstein/" target="_blank"> link</a> or read Prayers for Bobby.</span></b></span></div>
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<span lang="en-us" style="font-size: small;"><b>If you are struggling with your sexuality and you would like to speak to someone going through the same try the <a href="http://teenlineonline.org/" target="_blank">TEEN LINE site</a> - it is a step in the right direction. Also it is one of many sites/helplines. Alternatively you could send me an email @ gregodemi@gmail.com .</b></span><br />
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as humans all share one thing in common. We all have the ability to
interpret information the way we choose to. Circumstance may lead you to
believe that you're incapable of making an assumption without another
persons opinion- this however is false. You're highly capable of it.
This leads me to todays post- <b><span style="color: magenta;">Positive Negativity</span></b>. The concept is basic-
yet difficult to apply. You decide whether it is applicable in your
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In
todays society almost everything is surrounded with some form of
negativity. Homosexuality's biggest negative is homophobia. Majority of
you have experienced homophobic remarks and perhaps some of you still do
today. This may seem absurd but, what if I told you these remarks could
lead you into a happier state of mind? By using certain information the
way you choose- it may just be possible. "<b>Let my haters be my
motivators</b>" or as I like to call it <b><span style="color: magenta;">Positive Negativity</span></b>.<br />
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even eat. No matter what your outlet be, everyone has room for
development or "bettering themselves". Bettering oneself is a difficult
process- it demands a lot of time, attention and effort. Something that I
find helps the process is the negativity that surrounds me. For
instance when training- thinking of homophobic remarks allows me to push
myself further. The beauty is that it needn't be just homophobic remarks- it
may be anything negative. <b>The aim is to achieve positive growth by
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the fight for marriage equality and legalizing homosexuality taking
part in certain areas of the world- the gay community will come under
lots of scrutiny. These efforts will be met with a lot of animosity,
hate and anger by the opposition. It may not affect you directly- but it
will affect you nonetheless. During this time it is important we let
our voices be heard, whether it is comforting a gay friend, partaking in
activism or just saying your part. It is important you do not allow the
hostility to get to you. Retaliating with anger is never the appropriate
way to approach a situation. Be smart. <b>Use their negativity to your
advance. Allow them to fuel your progression.</b><br />
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On a personal note- I experienced a lot of homophobic mentality during
high school. Due to me being closeted through out high school- friends
were comfortable with my straight persona. This comfort led to many
people relaying their thoughts about homosexuality, and their disliking
of it, to me. Best friends would make distasteful remarks about gay men around
me and I could not retaliate or defend them. I know many of you are
experiencing the same as I did. As hurtful as it may be- you need to reassure
yourself. Allow these moments of aggravation and hurt to build you up!
In fact, these moments could be seen as having the upper hand.<br />
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"God hates fags". "Homosexuality is unnatural". "Gays go to hell".
Their intention is to break you down- do not allow them the pleasure. Apply
<b><span style="color: magenta;">Positive Negativity</span></b>. The concept is basic and advantageous- should you
have the ability to apply it to your situation. It may be difficult to
apply but no one ever said it would be easy, however, <b>IT WILL BE WORTH
IT IN THE END</b>.<br />
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I leave you with a quote from a speech by <b>Nelson Mandela</b>, "<b>There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.</b>"<span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: black; font-family: inherit;"></span></span><br />
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<b>I would also like to express my sadness upon the hearing of Amendment 1 being approved. The fight is not over yet!!!</b></div>
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<br />The Righteous Gayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18214030645990282669noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906831979502437371.post-77874366583889902362012-05-07T07:59:00.000-07:002012-05-08T12:34:29.493-07:00Real Love Never DiesI would like to begin this post by thanking everyone who read <a href="http://therighteousgay.blogspot.com/2012/05/my-coming-out-story.html" target="_blank">My Coming Out Story</a> and all the support/views I received in return. I thought today I would share another project I came by- called <a href="http://devotionproject.tumblr.com/" target="_blank">The Devotion Project </a>.<br />
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According to their site "<i>The Devotion Project is a series of short films documenting and celebrating LGBTQ couples and families.</i>" I, however, believe they're more than just a celebration of LGBT couples and families- these videos serve as a snippet of what our futures may entail. Seldom are<i> </i>the youth exposed to successful long term gay relationships, and too often are gay relationships expressed as; unstable, solely based on sex and impossible to maintain. <b>The Devotion Project</b> not only dismisses these theories it also displays three gay couples with motivating stories.<br />
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Looking for a form of guidance is instinctive, but sometimes we look in all the wrong places. <b>The Devotion Project </b>is a great model for what long term gay relationships may resemble and is a great form of guidance for all youth. The first video I came across entitled "<b style="color: lime;"><u>More Than Ever</u></b>" reduced me to tears within minutes. These videos are so easy to relate to due to their genuine content. These couples are simply telling their stories -in hope that some gay youth may seek comfort, guidance or understanding in them.<br />
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<u style="color: lime;"><b>More Than Ever</b></u>- is a very unique story. If you chose to watch it- you will realise that Bill Campbell, who stars in the video, died a year ago today (May 7th). This coincidence sent my body into shivers! The video is rather long- so I ask that if you should choose to watch it- please watch it entirely through, it is definitely worth it!<br />
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(<u style="color: lime;"><b>More Than Ever</b><b> </b></u>is the first of three videos. Should you wish to watch the rest- visit their site <a href="http://devotionproject.tumblr.com/" target="_blank">The Devotion Project on Tumblr</a> , for more about The Devotion Project go to <a href="http://www.indiegogo.com/TheDevotionProject?c=home" target="_blank">The Devition Project @ Indiegogo</a> ) <br />
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At times it may seem as though you're all alone, and no one is there to guide or comfort you. Whether closeted or openly gay- everyone has experienced that feeling of loneliness. After watching this video I came to realise that there may come a time when I will look back and be thankful I endured the loneliness and heartache. Certain things are worth the wait- through patience and understanding- we learn to love and forgive. So I propose that all youth that are reading this be patient and
strong in hope that someday you will have what Bill and John had- real
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<span style="color: red;"><span style="color: black;">I first watched this video on the blog <a href="http://theunbearabletruthfeareatsthesoul.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">The Unbearable Truth- Fear Eats the Soul</a></span> </span>-check it out!The Righteous Gayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18214030645990282669noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906831979502437371.post-44305201776714155522012-05-03T07:40:00.000-07:002012-05-08T12:39:31.332-07:00My Coming Out StoryI thought today I would share my coming out story with all you viewers out there. I find it's always easier to relate to someone when you know more about them- hence why I'd like to share my story. I think it's important we share our coming out stories with one another. It's a difficult process from which we all may learn. Perhaps you might find some tips or want to share your experiences.<br />
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I would say my coming out story is rather low-key. During the June/July period of 2011, I spent a lot of time alone. It was the school holidays and despite having many places to go and friends to meet- I really felt I needed some time for myself. Which is exactly what I did. After the holidays had passed- I felt rejuvenated and almost like a new me. Personally I felt more comfortable in my skin. I had spent my time learning more about myself and my emotions. <b>Most importantly I had come to accept who I was and the emotions I felt</b>. (<i>You think you know who you are, but after spending time alone you get to learn so much more about yourself</i>).<br />
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As 2011 was coming to an end I had a lot on my mind. I was finishing school and planning my future. One thing was clear to me though- I wanted to start adulthood as an open and honest person. No more secrets. I had decided that I would come out. <b>I did a lot of research on the topic and came across many helpful individuals, whom all helped me grow and reassured me on my decision to come out</b>. What I found so incredible was the fact that I hadn't met these people in person- yet they still influenced and inspired me.<br />
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Deciding when to tell my family brought up many questions- to which I needed answers. Luckily for me, I belong to a generation where search engines such as Google can answer questions within seconds. I knew that I wanted to be as comfortable as possible in the situation- therefore I decided I would tell them at home (a place I feel most comfortable). I also wore comfortable clothing- my favorite shirt and shorts. Something I took into consideration was that coming out should be done on day that doesn't belong to someone else. By that I mean a relatives birthday, Christmas or Easter. Coming out on these days might seem selfish or draw from the joyous occasion. I knew, personally, New Years day was a day my family generally spent together but it wasn't as important to the family as Christmas or New Years eve.<br />
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When planning on coming out I did not overlook anything. <b>I had a back-up plan in case my parents/family reacted badly</b>. I also made the family lunch on the day. I had told a close friend, one which I knew would respond positively, about my new journey prior to the occasion. This was almost like a trial or practice run before enduring my family's response. (<i>All of this I believe makes you more prepared for a situation such as coming out</i>.)<br />
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January 1st 2012. The Big Day</h4>
I made my way home after a good evening spent celebrating with my friends (New Years Eve). I had told my family I was going to cook lunch- so I was the only one in the kitchen on the day. I had invited my immediate family over for the lunch. My parents, brother, sister and brother-in-law sat outside enjoying the fine weather whilst I prepared the food. I recall being so stressed about telling the family. Thoughts of delaying coming out ran my mind wild. My sister, whom I share a close relationship with, kept coming into the kitchen asking if everything was alright. She could sense my edginess. I got so anxious minutes before laying the table, I decided to take a walk to calm me down. The walk around 3 blocks felt so quick- probably because of all the thinking I was doing. As I approached my house I remember saying to myself "You're Greg and this is who you are- you cannot lie to them no longer. They love you regardless!" Truth was- I did not know how it would go- no one knows. I entered the house- went to the bathroom and splashed my face with water. By the time I got to the table- the table was set and the food was out. Everyone was taking their seats- I decided to remain standing. (<i>I would advise everyone to try standing when telling others. Sitting is not the best when your anxious- but also you command attention when you're standing</i>). Now- my heart was beating so fast I almost couldn't feel it. My hands were soaked and my throat was tight! And then I said it. "There's something I want to tell you guys- it's a new year and I want you all to know that I'm gay". At first everyone felt I was joking. My father replied "I'm gay too!" But I think as they noticed my change in complexion they realized the situation was not of joking matter. At this point my eyes scattered along the table waiting to see everyones response. Immediately my sister and mother got up to hug me. My father got up too- but then sat down shortly after standing. As my sister and I hugged- we cried- holding each other tighter. I felt emotionally drained, it was just so overwhelming. After all the commotion we all sat down and enjoyed the quietest meal I have ever had. Everyones minds were obviously buzzing. As I sat there watching everyone eat- I realized how big I had made it out to be, but most importantly how grateful I was to be sitting with my family. <b>Today I was a new person- whether met with compassion or anger I knew it could only get better from here on out</b>.<br />
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Coming out is not something that happens over night. One needs to plan long in advance. Truth is- every situation is unique, and no matter how much advice you get- it won't help unless you apply it to your situation. The most important thing is to ACCEPT YOURSELF FIRST. You need to be strong if the situation turns bad. Research more- learn more and ask more! Once you have come out- your siblings will turn to you with questions to which you have to be prepared to answer. Remember there is no rush. Also you should be considerate of everyone you tell. Although it is difficult to predict the outcome- you can still prepare for the worst. In conclusion- make sure you're doing this for the right reasons- to live life honestly and happily. To be yourself. <br />
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<span style="font-size: small;"><span dir="auto">With the 2012 Olympic Games just around the corner (27 July 2012), I decided that a gay related sports post would be perfect. Many of us enjoy the Olympics- it's a time to support your country, watch endless amounts of your favorite sports and <i>occasionally </i>to stare at the hunks or babes playing the sports.</span></span><span style="font-size: small;"><span dir="auto">What ever your reason may be, I have found a new reason (if possible) to watch the 2012 Olympic Games. Matthew Mitcham. That's my reason. Not making sense? Let me explain...</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;"><span dir="auto">Matthew Mitcham is an openly-gay Australian gold-medal diver. In 2008 Mitcham won the gold medal for the 10m platform dive. Not only did he win the gold- he also </span>received the highest single-dive score in Olympic history. (<i>When we gays do something we always do it over the top</i>). Mitcham will be competing in this years Olympic Games and will be the reason I am glued to the diving during the 2012 O.G. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;">I have tremendous amounts of respect for openly gay athletes. In a field that can be very competitive and physically demanding- being open can make an athlete extremely vulnerable to the malicious critics out there. Their reward is in knowing that other LGBT athletes can dream bigger, now that they have paved the road less traveled. Gareth Thomas (Welsh professional rugby player), Anton Hysén (Swedish footballer), Matthew Mitcham (Australian diver) and many more are leading examples of just what possibilities await future LGBT athletes. These men are veterans in their sports and are proof that sexual preference is completely irrelevant when playing a sport. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;">Campaigns such as the <a href="http://youcanplayproject.org/" target="_blank">"You Can Play Project</a>" and "<a href="http://www.standupfoundation.com/" target="_blank">The Ben Cohen StandUp Foundation</a>" all combat homophobia and bullying in sports. <b>The aim is no longer to keep your secret in order to play the sport, but rather to play the sport without any secrets or regrets. </b>There is one site in particular I frequented whilst closeted and coming to terms with my sexuality- <a href="http://www.outsports.com/" style="color: #3d85c6;" target="_blank">Outsports</a> . I surprisingly found the link to the first article I read on Outsports- and to prove its authenticity there is a comment made by Gregory (being myself) expressing my opinions on the article dated 2011-09-11. Here's the link to <a href="http://www.outsports.com/os/index.php/component/content/article/24-people/194-bisexual-rugby-player-takes-things-in-stride" style="color: #3d85c6;" target="_blank">Greg's first Outsport article</a>. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;">Why not have a Gay Olympics? You may ask. We do have a "Gay Olympics". Two in fact. The <b style="color: #cc0000;">World Outgames</b> which will be held in Antwerp, Belgium (2013) and the <b style="color: #cc0000;">Gay Games</b> which will be hosted in Cleveland, USA (2014). They're both sporting/ cultural events hosted by the gay community to bring together gay athletes from around the world to compete. It's important we show the world that our community is not sport inadequate and that we are just as capable at pursuing sports we enjoy. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;">Support is essential in a community such as ours. If you're a gay athlete or even a sport fanatic reading this- know that you're not alone. Passion, dedication and fulfillment are what makes a successful athlete. Never doubt yourself- you can be a professional that happens to be gay. If you don't believe me ask Gareth Thomas, </span><span style="font-size: small;">Anton Hysén or Matthew Mitchum.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt;">I've recently been on the look out for gay
couples in public. Those couples who aren't afraid to walk side by side. Two guys holding hands- nothing
more. But it needn't be anything more- it is so satisfying as is! The public display of affection is a powerful spectacle- capable of turning heads, widening eyes and blowing minds. Well, for me at least. </span><span style="font-size: 12pt;">I feel these couples are what need to become a regularity to society. As a young
gay man, I find them inspiring and reassuring. I can also tell you there are
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<span style="font-size: 12pt;">Many express mixed emotions regarding "P.D.A". For instance how much is too much? And does it really have a positive impact- especially in conservative/ traditional countries? I believe the answer lies within yourself. For example- I am comfortable seeing two individuals kiss in public, however I find it distasteful to have your tongue down a partners throat (straight or gay). I therefore would only go as far as to kiss a partner in public. Being considerate of your surroundings is probably best. A gay club is obviously more suitable to be smooching than the church or the grocery store. Many people find it intimidating and overwhelming - it's probably advisable that you take other peoples emotions into consideration. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: 12pt;">Regarding whether it has a positive impact- I think I speak on the behalf of all youth when I say "<b>YES!</b>" It's exhilarating to witness. I recall my first sighting of two men kissing-it was so liberating. I know that before I came out- seeing two men share an intimate moment with the world made me less afraid of expressing my emotions. I felt less confined regarding my "new found" sexuality. At those exact moments things are put into perspective. <b>Life all of a sudden seems so much more worth living for!</b> </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: 12pt;">I ask you, what should prevent you from holding your
partners hand in public? Your sexual preference should not result in you living
a second hand citizenship- one in which your every right is not infringed, but
"tweaked" to suit society</span><span style="font-size: 12pt;">. There are no boundaries to love. It is simply human to show affection to the people you love. I ask you
to lead the youth into a society where two guys holding hands are what the sun
is to everyday. Natural...</span><br />
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This is all I could find on YouTube regarding PDA. Hope you enjoy!</h4>
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